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What do you think?
In Arab and Moslem societies, Women do everything for men. Whether a grandmother, a mother, a sister, a daughter or a wife, a woman is the one who is supposed to do the washing the cleaning, the cooking for the husband, the son, the grandson, the brother or any other guy the family includes. That may sound unfair or even discriminatory from a western perspective, but women themselves in these countries seem to consider that as part of their duty towards the family and even when they are given the opportunity to complain, which is rare, there are plenty of practices they actually complain about but never about having to serve the guys in the family. Is that a sort of servility that has no place in the 21st century or is that to be considered a positive side that favours the family unity which is tending to be lost in our modern world?
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Qu’en pensez-vous ?
Est-ce une sorte de servilité qui n’a point de place dans le contexte mondial de libertés et d’égalité entre les sexes ou bien est ce que cela devrait être considéré comme un côté positif qui favorise l’unité de la famille qui a tendance à disparaître dans le monde moderne?
7 comments:
Cher Rêveur, servir son homme doit être un plaisir, non une obligation ni une attitude vécue avec résignation. L'état de servitude n'est confortable ni chez l'humain, ni chez la bête.
Pourtant, donner est un plaisir si grand, quand on aime. Pourtant... tout donner, offrir jusqu'à toute sa solitude sacrée, jusqu'à tout répis possibles, jusqu'à ses rêves et aspirations... peut porter à la frustration, à l'amertume, à l'insatisfaction. Une part de soi se retrouve lasse, là.
Ce que j'aime de la liberté, c'est qu'on puisse être et aimer tout autant, donner, se donner, faire, se soumettre avec joie, recevoir tout autant. Les allers-retours sont puissants, formidables, ils prouvent que lui comme elle aiment et aiment.
Bon Dieu ! J'aurais pu écrire des pages là dessus. (sourires)
Je crois que l'utilisation du qualificatif "arabes et musulmanes" pour les sociétés qui pratiquent ce que tu décris, est un peu approximatif puisque l'islam n'a jamais demandé à la femme de "servir l'homme" ou de la priver de sa liberté y compris de complaindre. Ceci est un facteur culturel et non religieux ou ethnique.
c'est une conséquence directe des sociétés masculines un peu partout dans le monde...on peut trouver ca dans les sociétés non arabes et non musulmanes également...ceci dit il est plus désolant que dans les pays musulmans ces pratiquent continuent...car l'Islam est justement venu pour rendre justice aux femmes...
Consolider l'esprit "famille" sans opprimer les femmes peut (et doit) se faire automatiquement et sans problème.
Salut!
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the role that women take on is quite commonly not their choice (and often this is true of men as well, and VERY often of children) but often they accept it and then justify it, claiming that they are satisfied in that way. Everyone has to "serve" others, but making it feel like a gift rather than an imposition takes character! This is an admirable quality that women excel in!
i am thinking of this way of perception. for some, in that woman "serves" man. i speak only for my own family ways and i speak of it as a lakota woman. a earth woman. we do not "serve" man, we (woman) do things in a way that is woman. men do things that are man. i, as woman respect men and their secret societies, their medicine is not of me as mine as a woman is not of them. but i do, pray, give all i can to my people. not just men but the children, all young and elders, even our enemies and i do this with a good heart because it is the way. all are sacred. not because it is "my duty" as a woman, but because it is good. men of our people have their own responsibilities and those are specific for them and they are not for women. in this way the family and camp is in balance. long ago their were certain roles in our camps for men. to hunt to be warriors, to pray and dance to have vision in their own way etc... many do not understand that we still adhere to these ways and we know that being born human gives us superiority over nothing. these are our ways our traditions. I cannot speak so much on the white invader way and mentality, as it is different. i know though that some woman try to be man and many other things that we don't understand. the topic is quite large and is part of a huge imbalance in this place they call america.
love what you said here dear Jacksta.
I will try to be a brief as possible.First of all,I like to point out that Islam didn't dictate on women to serve men.It's tradition combined with the socio-economic situation of women in Arab countries that made put them on the bottom of the food chain.
Secondly,I think it's better to let women speak for themselves.I am here assuming you are a male.
Lastly,I'd like to congratulate you for a nice Multilingual blog.Good job.I will certainly come back to read more.
adilski
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